Work is really overwhelming right now (more on that later, but the long story made very short . . my discipline isn't valued very much by the organization I work in. My manager & her manager value our work, but every day feels like a need to justify your existence. It's very grating.) M's work is also challenging, and I'm exhausted by life.
The last time M & I got away without the kids was a year ago for our 10th anniversary. When we lived in Seattle, we had help much more frequently from my parents, my best friend, my sister, etc. M & I have a lot of hard decisions to make (where we are living, jobs, etc), and a crazy busy life, and no time to connect. We need time away to bond & connect & also to talk about all of our future plans & goals.
Over the weekend, I tried to talk myself out of planning anything for the two of us. There are many reasons not to. We are going to Hawaii as a family in November. I'm thrilled, but M & I will obviously have zero away time, as one of us will be with the kids at all times. We are also spending time with the family at the holidays. Ditto above. I'm so, so blessed to have the money & flexibility to have these trips, and I'm grateful. But, I need husband time.
It's not the most frugal decision I've ever made, but I decided to take advantage of my mom's newly retired status, and fly her & my dad here for a long weekend. The flights were $150/each, which is the lowest you can find. They will fly in on a Wednesday, and I can skip childcare on Thursday. I don't have childcare on Friday ever (sigh, my nanny) & the nanny has already cancelled for Monday as it's Halloween. My parents are thrilled to see the boys, and my mom has been struggling to adjust to her newly retired status. The boys are thrilled.
M & I debated all of the options, and want to stay close (aka no flying involved). I have platinum status at the Ritz, Marriott & Starwood properties, so I think we'll stay at the Ritz Carlton in Half Moon Bay for two nights. It's a huge splurge, & I think we're going to go for it. I may change my mind & book something less expensive. We'll see.
We have enough money to do this. It's hard to find the time & energy to spend time together, & I want to make it happen. We are both very excited about our time away! And now, nosy questions. How often do you have time with your spouse? How often do you actually get away from the kids for an overnight?